The Difference Between Healing, Stabilizing, and Expanding
Healing from trauma and core wounds is something that everyone experiences once they reach a certain threshold of maturity. While many people are seeking enlightenment and spiritual growth, many are outsourcing their agency to so-called gurus, shamans, and religious leaders.
While many people are seeking enlightenment and spiritual growth, some are relinquishing their personal decision-making to so-called gurus, shamans, and religious leaders, allowing these figures to dictate their beliefs and actions. Outsourcing their agency often means trusting others to tell them what to believe or how to behave, rather than engaging in their own inner reflection or questioning. For instance, some individuals follow the advice of spiritual leaders without question, believing that these figures hold all the answers to their personal growth. This practice can lead to a dependency on external authority, rather than fostering genuine self-discovery and empowerment.
True growth has always been an inside job.
As Yeshua said, “Seek, and ye shall find.”
The divine is not outside of us; we are of God, animated by the breath of life itself.
In the modern world, there are so many distractions that pull us away from seeking quiet solitude and sitting with our own tension. We are often so busy trying to survive, we have created a lack and fear mentality that continues the cycle that we’re desperately trying to escape. By focusing on scarcity, we are creating that experience. Working long hours and have precious little time to ourselves to unwind is a commonality we all share. How to break the cycle?
Healing is a process and it doesn’t happen overnight. One of the most effective methods that I have found is to notice the things that lead to a trigger response. Irritation and anger are signals that there is a core wound that needs healing. These are root problems that often originate in early childhood, or even past lives. The wound will fester until you get to the root of the problem.
Our world is a matrix that is designed to capture our attention and distract us from truly reconciling from suffering. Cell phones, television, social media, the news, the state of the world itself are all traps that further entangle us into the system. These are designed to keep us in stagnation. One cannot ascend if one is entangled in the static and noise of our environment.
To break this pattern, notice what is bothering you and sit with it without any distractions. No music, no television, no self-help videos. Just sit in the tension and ask, “What am I not seeing clearly?” Observe what comes up, but do not engage with the thoughts. Writing them down will help you see the pattern over time.
Then ask, “What is the next honest step?” Again, note what comes up and journal any thoughts that arise.
Sit up straight and practice deep breathing for five to seven breaths and then sit in silence for 5 to 10 minutes. Observe the thoughts, but do not engage with them. This is a grounding practice that will help you understand any underlying issues that need to be addressed. Forgive yourself for perceived mistakes—you’re here to learn! Forgive others for past mistakes, as well.
Disengaging from situations or people is sometimes the healthiest way to expand and grow. Setting firm boundaries and learning how to say no. Do not over give to people or situations that are draining and do not offer reciprocity.
Most people want to skip straight to “expansion.” But the real order is:
Healing: addressing the wound
Stabilizing: regulating the system
Expanding: growing into the next version of yourself
You cannot expand from dysregulation.
You cannot stabilize without facing the wound.
You cannot heal while drowning in distraction.
This is the path of sovereignty.
This is the path of inner authority.
This is the path of remembering who you are.
